The Lack of
Do we have control over major things in our lives?
Well let me start by saying everyone has control over the things they do or choose not to do. Also everyone has control over their personal material things they own or whatever. Everyone has control over their lives to some degree whether they want to be successful or not whether they want to be living the mediocre life or more.
No one has control over life or death except God. So where do we stand when it comes to controlling major things? In my point of view, we have very little control. However, what separates us from each other is the way we deal with the things that we don’t have control over.
Most of the people that have plans and goals to become somewhat what they want in life can and will eventually achieve that if they do follow their plan. Meaning people can reach the top and they can reach the bottom also based on their actions. So what’s so difficult to understand here? That we can both reach the top and the bottom of the ladder of success and still have control over the way we came to accomplishing it? Yes
So what’s your point here?
Well believe it or not, it’s not how you reach the top or the bottom that really matters is how you handle success or failure that really counts. It’s called learning how to manage, learning how to deal with things your not accustomed to dealing with, learning how to find a good thing in every bad situation, learning how to rise victorious from every tough situation. Learning how to face the music and learn from it.
So look at your life and see what you got control over and don’t freak out if you saw lots of things that you don’t control, just start thinking of a plan. Call it the “Disaster Recovery plan” I don’t know some name. “How to deal plan” whatever fits your mood. It’s good to get your mind thinking of how I would deal with situation that I don’t like but that might as well happen. Once you’ve learned how to deal, you can call yourself a successful person but until then you’re nothing but a living surviving soul.
I’m not sure if I agree with the way you express surviving here or not. While I think that the post is excellent and it brings up a lot of good points I believe that being a survivor can be at times better than a person that has a plan to deal with what comes.
I had defense mechanisms that I had developed my whole life to deal with situations that arose at times from hardship. I had such a good cope mechanism that I had fooled myself into believing that I had everything under control and that I pretty much could deal with anything. I had a plan, I had followed it and success was there in the eyes of others. But success is so relative and our self image at times so dependant on what others see that it is hard to look at the mirror and see what we are ourselve.
I have become a survivor because of having to face my way of dealing with things, and believe me I now feel like I am more true to myself than before when I felt like I had everything under “control”. Sometimes having a solid plan is not as important as being able to face yourself and know that inside you are not just “dealing” but “surviving” and coming out better at the end. We might be saying the same thing, but to me the way you used surviving sounded to me more like coasting through life…
Great post!
We are thinking along the same way! My whole point here is dealing with situations in otherwords surviving the situations
Interesting!
I think you’re right that there’s lots of things you can’t control in life. The key is to make sure you don’t let that get you down. There’s usually some way you can at least influence these things. You really have to take the bad with the good, and learn how to turn the bad into good. Attitude is everything.
I wish you wrote this about 6 months ago!
Hey bro,
first I miss you
sec i miss u
third, a lot.
I love what u wrote.
I think we can never control anything in our life.We can plan and learn to deal with any outcome we have.Strong people can always manage any situation there are in , even if they can’t control it. I know u are a very strong person.
love you
ur wise :)sis/
I just went through your post … really interresting and you are really going to the point here. I believe that one have no control on things going arround him and things that are pulling him but I am sure that one have control on one thing and this will help him in all the situations . From my point of view one can program his mind and can control himself if not the situation , in other word he can program himsef with taking “situation” as input parameter :)) … So I say that CONTROL will be controlling your mind and yourself and this is your responsability . Mind rules !