Misunderstanding
Have you ever been misunderstood?
I’m going to start this post by a little advice to everyone.
If you happen to have a problem or an issue with someone, don’t just ignore it and forget about it. NO bring it up to their attention and let them know about it; it’s up to them if they want to fix it or not. Your job is to let them know. At least you know that you’ve done your part. A lot of the times, little things get accumulated and people don’t communicate correctly with one another which leads to a big misunderstanding issue on both sides.
Let’s take a hypothetical example; let’s say you have roommates and one time they came home and stay up late and they were loud. If you don’t bring it up to their attention the next day or even the same night, you’re just going to cause things to build up and sometime you will end up not being friends at all, from a little stupid thing that got escalated with time, because there was no immediate action on either sides. However; if you were to let them know, then this whole thing could be prevented. The roommates will know that they were loud and will prevent this from happening. We are living in a modern world, where I think we should be able to communicate with one another, because trust me NONE NO ONE IS PERFECT. I’m the kind of person that if you tell me, well this thing is bothering me or whatever, I will take it into consideration and work on it. Otherwise, I can’t read minds! So people out there please do yourself and the people around you a favor and tell them what’s up!
December 20th, 2004 at 1:10 am
Sometimes it seems like very few people let others know what they’re actually thinking or feeling. I wonder how many quarrels could be avoided if everyone would just communicate!
December 20th, 2004 at 9:32 am
I agree, “NONE IS PERFECT”….especially at spelling!
December 20th, 2004 at 3:51 pm
Thanks Nick
December 21st, 2004 at 4:15 pm
Interesting post. Unfortunately I have a problem with not always telling a person (especially men) if his/her actions have bothered me. I think it stems from the way I was raised to try to be pleasing and not to create tension in my relationships. I can think of numerous occasions, and I’m sure most of you can too, when my mother sacrificed her own happiness to keep her family/husband happy. I definitely need to work on this.
December 22nd, 2004 at 9:38 am
I think if you are living like that it’s like living in a false sense of happiness. Marriage and relationships are all about communication. Women constantly expect us to read their minds. Sorry ladies, but it hasn’t happened for thousands of years, and won’t be changing anytime soon. Speak your mind…if for one reason, do it to be true to yourself. It will help everyone out in the situation.
December 22nd, 2004 at 10:09 am
Make sure that you stress this point to your daughters when you are raising them!
December 22nd, 2004 at 10:37 am
I plan to have all boys…girls are a PITA.
December 22nd, 2004 at 3:34 pm
Communication is easy… effective communication is difficult. It takes both people wanting to do so. It is what is wrong with humanity, we have the hability to speak to one another yet we do not communicate.